The Effeminization of Black Men

Men wear dresses now. Men wear pants that compete in tightness for the ones I’m wearing.  And it’s en-trend. Teenagers think it’s unfashionable for men to wear regular cut jeans. The tighter the better these days, the boys say. And to think, we used to worry about sagging pants. Now we have to worry about our boys coming home in sagging jeggings, on top of the kids today talking complete foolishness out the sides of their naïve-ass necks about ‘not being boxed in or categorized’ as if God were wrong for making them just one gender. I heard a song the other by Young Thug saying ‘I had to wear the dress cuz I had a stick’. Lyrical assassination that encourages our youth to feel like it’s okay to for our men  to feminize themselves as long as they’re doing so in the name of thuggism ? What in the entire fuck is the world really coming to? Before I begin, let me give the necessary disclaimer because I know this is a sensitive ass topic and to hopefully (though I give a damn either way, I’m entitled to an opinion, or nah?) keep all the trolling asses off of mine: I DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HOMOSEXUALITY! But (because you knew that big ass but[t?] was coming) when you turn on the t.v, radio, or hell even open your eyes to wake up in the morning for that matter, it seems that there is some kind of definite agenda (live vicariously through me conspiracy theorists, here I come!) going on to not only force homosexuality down everyone’s throat, but dare I say it, even to effeminize Black men in particular. Now because I’m a huge fan of playing devil’s advocate (odd term that I’m now curious to know the origin of…linguists help me out) for balance and logic’s sake, I will be the first to admit, I am not versed in White culture and I’m only lighted versed in Black culture, as it pertains to the media, cuz, well, ain’t nobody got that much time for that. But sometimes certain things happen that tend to get everyone’s attention, primarily because they are run into the damn ground (wonder why?). Most recently two of those things have been Malik Yoba coming out and admitting that he likes transsexuals followed damn near immediately by Tank saying it’s okay for men to get head from men a couple times while they trying to figure shit out I guess. First of all, I have many comments, most of which I’ve typed and deleted in place of something more palatable to the masses (for the unfiltered version, get at me) and because my overall goal is not to offend, only educate.  While the homosexual agenda has many attack fronts, these particular examples are instances of attempt to reframe how we view the Black man. These were two examples of strong, sexy men from our culture who were (yes I past tensed that bitch) once sex symbols. Malik Yoba and Tank made many (female in particular but I suppose male too?) hearts throb and mouths water. For years, women fantasized about these men, and now, these fantasies have been shattered, or better yet, altered to make room and begin to normalize homosexual tendencies. Now as I researched this rabbit-hole of a topic, I’ve come to understand that transgendered women don’t view the men who are interested in them as homosexual and that’s a point that ya’ll can argue about in the comments until the cows come home, but as a womb-holding, natural-born woman, entitled to my own opinion, I do feel that there is a homosexual component involved when a man is knowingly involved with a transgendered woman. 

We’ve gone from a time when you’d turn on your television and see Lucy and Ricky sleeping in separate beds on ‘I Love Lucy’. Though this name is like bringing up Satan himself, you never saw the Huxtables’ doing anything more than snuggling and maybe speaking suggestively over the head of most kids. I prefer the time when no one’s sexuality was a conversation unless we wanted it to be. Now we are forced to accept everyone sexuality because it is overtly placed in everything. I don’t care if two men make out in the privacy of their own homes, but I care when I have to watch it in my living room unexpectedly. I care when messaging is placed in my kids programming. But just the same, I don’t want to watch a hetero couple making out while I’m watching an episode of whatever. It’s not necessary to the storyline in most instances. We’ve overdone the mantra ‘sex sells’ and have lost all morality as a culture and the dominant society is hell-bent and intent on bringing everyone with them and because we, as blacks, don’t have our own culture to fall into, we go along to get along with theirs. And our identity crisis continues to manifest itself.  

As crazy as it will sound, it is my belief that those in power are attempting to recreate a modern-day version of Greek society where sex ran the gamut of anything you could think and sex was not strictly relegated to a relationship between men and women, but was an option with anyone/anything you found ‘beautiful’. This included children and sometimes even animals. Which in mind brings us to the present-day movement to lower the age of consent and the attempts to normalize pedophilia. It is our responsibility as logical, thinking Black people to not just go along with the status quo and what is made to sound good in the moment, but to really think about the long-term implications on Black society and to always ask ‘why’.

Our attacks are many, varied and highly creative in form to hide their true intentions. And many are divisive to creating the unity we need to elevate our position. It took me longer than usual to write this blog because it dealt with such a sensitive topic, and I, at one point almost shied away from completing it in fear that I’d unintentionally offend someone, but my heart (ancestors) wouldn’t let it go. Consider this piece a compromise. I didn’t write as much as I wanted to, but something had to be written. And who knows, I may write a follow-up with references and cite notes as I’m aware many aren’t going to believe the words coming out of my mouth, but may believe the words of history. We’ve reached a critical point. It’s damn near life or death for Black people if we don’t wake all the way up and realize what’s happening. Believe me or not, a quick review of the statistics show that homosexuality is on the rise, with most countries sighting a slight increase of between 1%-1.5% over the last decade or so. Not a startling percentage increase but enough to question why the numbers are rising in the first place. So while this increase is definitely not specific to Blacks, we still have to be conscientious that this agenda exists and be mindful of the behaviors we choose to accept and normalize in our community. Our continuous job remains to be protective over our culture, heritage and future. 2023: America’s Last Battle (available on amazon.com) is a fictionalized account of how we can begin to implement that protection. Grab your copy and help protect our future today! One love! Indigo Fire